Often described as a caused by a chemical addiction in the brain, love always seems to leave us in the sense of the grandiose feeling we get with a new love in our lives. Like a match that is struck; At first there is a great intensity as the additional fuel accelerates the fire to burn the remaining wood. Then as it burns the remaining pieces of the match the fire slowly tapers off and then leaves the charred carbon remains.

Chemically, love is caused by several hormones and proteins in the brain, oxytocin, estrogen, testosterone, one of those tonins (mela, or sara), and of course the release of endorphins for a bit of pleasure. But once oxytocin mixes with those chemicals - bonds are made between two people. Depending on the amount of chemicals released usually depends on the strength of the bond.

Of course that’s the highly technical reasoning for why people are attracted to someone, fall in love and then 2-3 months later realize that they no longer have those stong feelings and abandon the person for someone else in order to regain those same fuzzy feelings of new found love. So yes, Love is fleeting, and moreover its very similar to a crack addiction.

And in particular - there is someone I keep up with that writes periodically on her blog about her exploits and the new “boy” that she has met, and she always ends up falling in love with them, and then surprised when just as quickly as it starts, its over. This is a perfect example of how love is fleeting, and not only that about what causes attraction vs what does not.

So the question remains do we as humans, abandon the constant cycle of addiction to new found love for settling with someone because we know that its something that is supposed to happen within nature? And is the rising trend of divorce caused by people abandoning tradition and going back out in search of this elusive romantic notion that one day you’ll find someone that fills you with that “like new” feeling for the end of your days? In truth, how many people find that happiness
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