Love is fleeting?
posted by pylornsOften described as a caused by a chemical addiction in the brain, love always seems to leave us in the sense of the grandiose feeling we get with a new love in our lives. Like a match that is struck; At first there is a great intensity as the additional fuel accelerates the fire to burn the remaining wood. Then as it burns the remaining pieces of the match the fire slowly tapers off and then leaves the charred carbon remains.
Chemically, love is caused by several hormones and proteins in the brain, oxytocin, estrogen, testosterone, one of those tonins (mela, or sara), and of course the release of endorphins for a bit of pleasure. But once oxytocin mixes with those chemicals - bonds are made between two people. Depending on the amount of chemicals released usually depends on the strength of the bond.
Of course that’s the highly technical reasoning for why people are attracted to someone, fall in love and then 2-3 months later realize that they no longer have those stong feelings and abandon the person for someone else in order to regain those same fuzzy feelings of new found love. So yes, Love is fleeting, and moreover its very similar to a crack addiction.
And in particular - there is someone I keep up with that writes periodically on her blog about her exploits and the new “boy” that she has met, and she always ends up falling in love with them, and then surprised when just as quickly as it starts, its over. This is a perfect example of how love is fleeting, and not only that about what causes attraction vs what does not.
So the question remains do we as humans, abandon the constant cycle of addiction to new found love for settling with someone because we know that its something that is supposed to happen within nature? And is the rising trend of divorce caused by people abandoning tradition and going back out in search of this elusive romantic notion that one day you’ll find someone that fills you with that “like new” feeling for the end of your days? In truth, how many people find that happiness
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Tags: chemicals, Love, memories
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April 12th, 2006 at 11:06 pm
I don’t think so much that love is fleeting. I think people just don’t think things through rationally when they are infatuated with someone. Saying one is in “Love” with another is at first an infatuatory feeling. Mostly a physical attraction. Overtime, the physical gives way and the two seperate mouths long enough to have a conversation. Then they discover things. Idiosyncratic behavior that the other may not like. If they choose to work through or ignore these things. This is when love becomes apparent. When you both become comfortable around eachother. When the real yous show up. That’s love. Love is something not even a Bean Burrito Dutch Oven could break apart. But, then as the two get older. Their body parts no longer operate as they did in their twenties. They no longer have the drive to physical affection anymore. They simply like having the other around for companionship. Personally I think that people’s priorities have gotten jacked. They expect every relationship to be happily ever after in 2 hours and all family problems to be fixed in 30 min with a possible teen pop star guest appearance. Nobody wants to work at things anymore.
April 13th, 2006 at 6:14 pm
good observation. the title is the attention grabber.