Everyone seems to want to bash my *deemed* inappropriate question. “Oh, why would you ask someone that the first time you just meet them?”

Well why not? If you’re already in a line of personal questioning and you have gauged that person to be a bit nutty, why not ask them if they are on anti-depressants? Especially if they have already told you they are depressed all the time? Forget about the fact that the conversation was only little snipits; ie the important factors that made me determine she was obviously not worth talking to any longer.

In today’s society marriages fail right and left. I myself was engaged at one point and by sheer luck and many arguments we determined that it was not to be. Point being I spent 4 years of my life with her only to find out in the end that religion and money were the main factors in us not getting along. Relationships boil down to several major factors that you must meet on neutral ground in order to move forward.

Money
Religion
Politics
Sex

And on lesser notes:
Intelligence
Introvert vs Extrovert
Amiable

Mainly if you cannot agree on the main ones you’re doomed. Now society tells us that we shouldn’t pry into someone’s lives, we should make small talk and avoid the things that we really would like to know first. Why? Ask yourself why is it wrong to ask someone right up front what they believe in?

What’s the first thing you do when you are looking to buy a used car? You ask “Has it been in an accident? Why are you selling it so cheap?”

Why should looking for a potential mate be any different? Now, don’t answer this with out a truly well thought out answer. One lined “you’re stupid that’s just the way it is” Just shows you that you’re the one who is a moron.

Our society, our race as humans has changed. Our social graces have changed. Hell, at one point in Human culture homosexuality was common practice within Greek and roman society, today its still looked at as unnatural. Society tells us that its not right, I myself have trouble accepting it. 50 years ago a womans only job was to be susy homemaker now its a rare sight to see a single income household. Both man and wife bring home the bacon and yet, the woman is still by society expected to have dinner ready. Our society has been changing, our social mores have been altered.

So really, what is the real question here? Many of you who criticize me have had yourselves very bad experiences and had you asked the right questions up front, you’d have avoided them all together. Sure you can say “well my mistakes make me the person I am today.” But what you could be saying is, “my asking the right questions, ultimately led me to live a happier life with the one I truly belong with.” Instead of a mundane life with someone who is “almost” the right person who has just a few too many skeletons in his/her closet.

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